I’m Toby Macklin and I work with men to help them live more satisfying and purposeful lives, often in the face of trauma.
We men often try to push problems aside, but some are hard to ignore. You may be unhappy in your work or your relationships, and likely struggle with a harsh internal voice of self-criticism. You may feel anxious, angry, or depressed. Perhaps you’ve realized that events in the past continue to impact you and are preventing you from living the way you want to.
Many men have had physically, emotionally, or sexually abusive childhoods. Even relatively “benign” dysfunction in families can deeply affect a child’s sense of worth into adulthood. Some of the men I work with have also had frightening or painful experiences as teens and younger adults, involving bullying, addiction, or their physical and mental health. While you survived the immediate impact, your life may still be affected years later.
You may have nightmares and flashbacks, or find yourself thinking constantly about something that happened. Maybe you’re jittery, always on the look out for danger, or you over-react to seemingly small provocations. You look for ways to numb your feelings (like drinking for example), or try to get rid of aspects of yourself you don’t like, but you know this isn’t really working and often causes more problems than it solves. And all of this inevitably affects your relationships with partners and other important people in your life. You want something different.
HEALING AND GROWTH
The good news is that we all have innate resources that can empower us to heal and grow. When you come to counselling with me, we’ll work together to help you discover those resources, heal from traumatic experiences, and find renewed pleasure and meaning in your life.
Although trauma can have very painful consequences, it may also provide an opportunity to reevaluate your life and discover strengths and ambitions you didn’t know were there before. In our work together, we’ll aim for both healing and growth. Contact me today to make an appointment.