I work with youth and adults, individuals, families, and couples online or over the phone using a model called Internal Family Systems (IFS).
IFS is based in the idea that we are made up of parts. Part of us wants to be social and part of us wants to be alone. Part of us wants to be productive and part of us wants to do nothing. We can get stuck in these battles, feel run by the wounds these parts are carrying, or both. Some parts think it is a good idea to binge on food, substance, Netflix, etc. and other parts shame us for acting on those urges.
I can help you turn towards all of these parts with compassion and appreciaton as you understand that they are actually trying to help, not harm you (bingers and shamers alike). Once these parts feel appreciated, understood, and supported, inner critics transform into cheerleaders, and we are able to tend directly to our hurts instead of distracting from them. We can speak for rather than from our wounds in relationships and find the love we have always looked for inside of us (for real).
I like to work with members of couples and families individually and together so each member can learn to care for their own parts and bring that to the relationship.